The Reason Trump Won

The Reason Trump Won

The American election may be over, but our work has only just begun.

For the last year, I sounded the horn. I told horrible stories of abuse and injustice from my past just to try to WAKE PEOPLE UP. I brought light to so many stories of sexual abuse; domestic violence and the abuse of power in our jails, policing, and courts.

I’ve lost lots of followers, friends, and even family members. I’ve lost staff over this election. I’ve lost students, sales, income.

I’ve been told to tone it down, shut my mouth, and keep my political opinions to myself. I’ve been told to stop exaggerating, being dramatic, and difficult. And on more than one occasion I’ve been yelled at that men and women are equal now… and that women have it good!

“Why couldn’t I just talk about love, God, source energy, and the law of attraction?” some would seriously ask me.

Well, I couldn’t.

I just couldn’t not talk about him because I know Trump!

He is not new to me. He is not shocking. He is the man I’ve faced way too many times, in way too many places that you would never dream of that a racist, chauvinistic, misogynistic, father and husband could be.

Trump is our fathers. Trump is our brothers. Trump is our husbands. Trump is our sons. And that is why we elected him. We couldn’t admit to ourselves just how wretched the underbelly of America is.

I mean, of course, not all men are like Trump–rich, rude, narcissistic, elite, and entitled to do, say, and touch whatever they want. But enough of them agree with his ways to have given him the most powerful job in the world. Women agreed, too.

So why would good people side with Trump, you may ask yourself?

Because Trump is familiar to us. We know him. We’ve lived with men like him. It’s kinda like the Stockholm Syndrome. He feeds on our learned helplessness. He is the devil we know versus the devil we don’t. Institutions run by rich abusive assholes like him. Men who file for bankruptcy and don’t pay their bills, leaving the little guys and gals (and single mothers), like me and you, used and abused with no one to turn to for help.

We women are still trophies to men like Trump. We are a commodity to be talked about like race horses: nice legs, sexy rump, shining skin and hair. Good teeth.

And the worst part: We’re okay with it because it’s normal to sexualize and objectify women. It’s normal to hear racist remarks in private, and it’s normal to talk about immigrants like they are some other kind of human–different than our kind of human. ???

Instead of saying no to Trump and men like him, once again, we have turned the other cheek to his misgivings because we too have had Trump archetypes in our lives–bullies, abusers, men in positions of power–and no one defended us either. No one even told us it was wrong. No one stood up for us. Then or now.

I remember being down in Aruba to speak at International Women’s Day on March 8th, 2016. I told the Minister of Education that Trump is going to win. She laughed and said ‘COME ON!’ like I was being dramatic.

No way, she said. No way!

Yes, way.

I knew it after speaking with an American man that same week down in Aruba who told me “It was bad enough when a black man became president. There is no way we are going to let a woman run our country. No way! Come hell or high water, we will not let that happen!”

Here’s the bottom line, if Hilary Clinton had been a man with 30 years of government training and preparedness, she would have won against Trump in 2016. Period. Over and out. No questions about it.

So are you all awake now?

Are you ready to get involved? Have a voice? Rock the boat?

You are not a bystander. You can change the world by taking action.

The best way to fight is to write.

You can no longer stand by quietly when your boss sexually harasses you or someone in your workplace; when a teacher stands too close or touches you inappropriately; when your neighbors make jokes about women, black people, lesbians, gay men, transexuals, or minorities. You cannot lump Muslims with terrorists, nor can you ever allow others to speak to such insanity in your presence.

I’ve been called a whistleblower, a big mouth, a feminist, a man hater. I’ve been told that I laugh too loud, talk too much, and create trouble.

I’ve finally embraced I am a Troublemaker.

So, if you would like to help me make some trouble, I am looking for contributing writers for my Simply Woman Magazine ( I want women who will tell the truth, shine light on oppression, and be the voice that the world needs right now.

Please help me help heal this world.

Please tell your truth.



Crystal is the founder and CEO of The S.W.A.T. Institute. Her personal story is the perfect backdrop to become a voice for the next era of the women’s movement. Crystal has overcome insurmountable odds to create a life of joy and purpose. From a tough beginning—her parents turbulent divorce at age 12, a stranger rape at 14, extended sexual abuse from a family friend, moving out at 15, battling the early stages of cervical cancer at only 17, suffering a traumatic head injury at age 20 that left her to deal with unannounced seizures, marrying young and gaining over 80 pounds in her pregnancies, then struggling through a difficult divorce and near bankruptcy before becoming a single mother to two beautiful girls (one who nearly lost her own life in 2010)—Crystal has dedicated her life to helping women transcend their victimhood, martyrdom, self-limiting beliefs, fears, and patterns.
  • I am all in Crystal

  • Lisa Marie Stefanski-Mcneeley

    It is time to grab our self worth and make a stand for all.

  • Beth Humphreys

    I am writing something right now… where can I send it?

  • Stacey Seuferer

    What topics are you looking for?

  • Shanida De Gracia

    I am in!!!

  • Janet

    I’d love to write something for your magazine. Count me in!

  • Crystal OConnor

    No, I’m a troublemaker and have a completely different view from you. I’m in however- I don’t share your view AT ALL. Still interested in hearing from me? 😉 I’m used to being unpopular and standing up for what I believe even when most all women hate me for it. Why? Because I want to make them stronger.

    • I’m absolutely interested in your point of view! Why don’t you share your unpopular beliefs and see what we think? <3

  • Kim Ritter Gignac

    I enjoy following you Crystal, yet your view is misguided. Trump has become our next President because men and women are tired of the political elite (Republicans and Democrats) who do nothing but line their corrupt pockets. We are tired of our corrupt government. Voters wish to give an anti-political elite an opportunity to rebuild our middle class, make our government smaller, reduce spending, and create a strong military that much of the world relies on. This nation wants a woman president. Hillary simply wasn’t the right woman. She is in the hands of banks and corporations, promising them one thing and lying to the public with another story. She is corrupt. I can’t wait to vote for a woman who has a clean resume. How about Condoleezza Rice? #troublemakertoo

  • Carol Richer

    I agree with Kim! If Hillary would have divorced Bill, worked through her pain, regrouped and then run for office–she would have come out a different person. I am quite sure she would have had the respect of many Americans if she would have distanced herself from the behavior of her husband who would have gone to the White House with her! We have a system of checks and balances, too! If Trump pulls anything he will be called on it! I say give his Administration a chance. He won’t be running the country by himself. How do you know the country won’t be in a better place in the future just by cleaning up the wasteful spending of Washington alone! You are affiliated with metaphysical websites Crystal. Check out this prediction from 2015 Huffington Post:

  • Dorothy Turner-Jones

    Thanks for this article! I am a 55 year old African American wife, mother, and 4th grade teacher. Your words are so true!